Am I good enough?March 11, 2018
All of us have an internal dialogue and often that voice in your head is much harsher than anyone else. The concept of being good enough and worthy come up for a lot of people.
We stay stuck in situations – jobs, relationships, friendships, financial struggles because we don't feel that we can escape. We are not “good enough” to do anything different.
Scrolling through social media can magnify these feelings – success seems to equate with beautiful photos, stunning destinations, physical perfection.
You feel like you aren't enough and you will never measure up to these images. So you stay where you are, convinced that you would have to be someone different to reach your dreams. That you would fundamentally have to change yourself.
From the outside looking in it seems like you have all of the ingredients – a successful job, a house, a relationship, a family. You don't want for anything in a material sense.
You spend hours every week imagining how your life could be different – you know what you want but you don't take action. The future tripping can make you feel even worse about yourself as you “should” be happy with what you have got.
The fact of the matter is you are more than good enough, your self belief needs to be boosted so that you have the confidence to take action.
Your thoughts are keeping you from taking action, the fear of failure or fear of rejection are all too familiar.
Instead of focusing on what you can't do (and what you don't know how to do) look at what you are good at doing, look back at your successes – those things that you have achieved so far in your life. That education, career highs, personal highs. Write them all down.
Now own them, acknowledge that you are responsible for all of these positive events – you. You were “good enough” to train for that 10km and finish it, to get through that university course, to lead that team.
Then start to think about where you can go to for support and help for your goal. You don't have to do everything on your own. There are plenty of places to get support – coaches, to friends, to colleagues, to books to the internet. We live in an information rich world so identify what you want to do and where you need assistance.
The final action I encourage you to do is to start taking action, with action comes clarity and confidence. If your goal is to start up your business your action might be to speak to an accountant about business ownership or attend a start up business event. Small, daily action will help you build your confidence and will pave the road to success.
If you are still doubting your ability to achieve what you want to achieve get support, work with someone on unpicking your beliefs and build yourself back up.